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Nov 21, 2022
Brenda R. Smyth, Supervisor of Content Creation
Grateful bosses help employees feel valued. And when employees feel valued, they’re more engaged, less stressed, more focused and more likely to stay with your organization, according to an HBR.org study.
With all these benefits, why don’t all bosses shower on the praise?
I recently heard an executive-level individual admit that he’s not good at saying “thank you” to people on his team. He sometimes feels that a job well done is just that — an employee simply doing what’s expected — with no “thank you” needed. I’ve also heard friends complain about spouses who want to be thanked for doing household tasks that are just part of daily life, and they too don’t feel the “thank you” is warranted.
Why all this stinginess when it comes to saying “thank you”?
Turns out this exec and those friends are not alone in their sometimes-sluggish displays of gratitude. Research suggests that differences in our brains, genes and personalities make showing gratitude difficult for some people. Gene CD38, which is involved in the secretion of oxytocin, and gene COMT, which is involved in recycling dopamine, may be a contributing factor. Several studies also link differences in brain structure and activity in people who show varying levels of gratitude. And certain personality factors such as envy, materialism, narcissism, and cynicism are also thought to be “thieves of thankfulness,” according to Summer Allen for greatergood.berkeley.edu.
But can we afford to allow these natural tendencies to become an excuse? Changing our behavior takes self-awareness and practice. But before we get specific, let’s talk more about what employees really want.
Noticing when someone reaches a goal … taking the time to acknowledge, celebrate and reward that achievement makes almost anyone feel good about their work. This kind of recognition is most common in organizations. But what about celebrating the individual employee?
Is it really recognition for great work that employees crave? Or rather, is it feeling valued as a person?
In their book WE: How to Increase Performance and Profits through Full Engagement, Rudy Karsan and Kevin Kruse make this distinction and suggest that it’s the latter. “As a whole, organizations are especially weak in creating an environment where employees truly feel valued.”
Letting an employee know that you’re glad they're part of your team makes them feel valued. Certainly, you should celebrate the accomplishments. But don’t ignore the person.
We work in an everyone-is-replaceable world.
Don’t like your boss or your job? Send out a résumé and find a new one. Don’t like the price you’re getting from a vendor? Buy from someone else. Employee’s skills or attitude stagnating? Replace them rather than educate them.
Certainly, as Kruse and Karsan outline in their book, employees and employers are equal partners in the drive to full engagement. But organizations and managers can take a big step in doing our part by truly valuing employees — building loyalty. This means recognizing them for who they are and the unique perspectives they bring to our businesses (regardless of whether it comes naturally to us or not).
Brenda R. Smyth
Supervisor of Content Creation
Brenda Smyth is supervisor of content creation at SkillPath. Drawing from 20-plus years of business and management experience, her writings have appeared on Forbes.com, Entrepreneur.com and Training Industry Magazine.
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